ï Read É Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein ✓ Having read Orenstein s Girls Sex Navigating the Complicated New Landscape , two things came immediately to mind about her latest venture, 1 she made sure to be a lot inclusive in her selection of interviewees, and 2 she pulled together a lot resources.
While Girls Sex was certainly a good place to start, Orenstein fell short in allowing the research to speak for itself there was often too much of an injection of her own thoughts and opinions on the subject of how we empower and or mishandle the sexual education of young girls and women.
In her defense, it had to be difficult not to personalize some of the content, being a woman and mother herself.
That said, this latest entree doesn t fall short in that department Orenstein is plenty hands off and the book feels put together and complete than its predecessor.
The young men interviewed In Boys Sex, researcher Peggy Orenstein explores how toxic masculinity affects the sexual behavior of American Millenial and Gen Z boys Her basic premise is that from an early age, male children in this demographic are taught to limit their emotional vocabulary, which only gets worse as they are exposed to media stereotypes, free internet porn, lack of sexual education at home and at school, and the unfulfilling expectation or reality of hookup culture, all of which combine to negatively impact their emotional and sexual literacy I identified with a lot of the anecdotal research in Boys Sex In particular, I like how the author explains that while the definition of womanhood has expanded to include many different types of women, men are still stuck with a 1950s ideal of male empowerment which basically consists of being stoic, d
This is not my favorite style of covering topics lots of interviews, no analysis or research But I knew what it was because I read the girls one I learned a lot mostly because I wasn t close with any teenage boys no brothers or best friends who talked about this stuff so these revelations were nuts And If I had boys thank God I don t , the one thing I would definitely ban is porn.
Extremely interesting and helpful Have already ordered another book she referenced Review to come Literally read it in 48 hours.
Not great, not terrible Peggy Orenstein has been my personal hero for over a decade She s the reason I became a gender scholar I was excited to hear about this book, but I believe she was too easy on some of these processes I appreciated what seemed like her reluctance to join into cancel culture with some of these boys, but a boy who sexually harasses and sexually assaults his peers who are girls is not a good boy I don t care if he volunteers and if he loves his mom It s hard to stand up for what you believe in It sucks to lose social capital for putting your peers and your teammates on the spot when they say shitty things about girls But it s our job And it s unexcusable to not expect this of the boys we re raising.
With Girls and Sex, Peggy Orenstein gave readers powerful glimpses into the lived realities of teenage girls, with an adept mix of personal connection, theoretical acumen, and action based advice Boys and Sex begins with a similar promise by interviewing young men and collecting data for two years, Orenstein has developed insights into how young men experience masculinity and what society can do to steer them away from misogynistic patterns Writing this in the context of Trump era definitions of sexual misconduct, Orenstein ably unpacks the impact it has on boys when sexual misconduct exists at high levels, and she explains how detrimental it is to have egregious models that make microaggressions seem permissi NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLERThe Author Of The Groundbreaking New York Times Bestsellers Girls Sex And Cinderella Ate My Daughter Now Turns Her Focus To The Sexual Lives Of Young Men, Once Again Offering Both An Examination Of Sexual Culture And A Guide On How To Improve It Washington PostPeggy Orenstein S Girls Sex Broke Ground, Shattered Taboos, And Launched Conversations About Young Women S Right To Pleasure And Agency In Sexual Encounters It Also Had An Unexpected Effect On Its Author Orenstein Realized That Talking About Girls Is Only Half The Conversation Boys Are Subject To The Same Cultural Forces As Girls Steeped In The Same Distorted Media Images And Binary Stereotypes Of Female Sexiness And Toxic Masculinity Which Equally Affect How They Navigate Sexual And Emotional Relationships In Boys Sex, Peggy Orenstein Dives Back Into The Lives Of Young People To Once Again Give Voice To The Unspoken, Revealing How Young Men Understand And Negotiate The New Rules Of Physical And Emotional IntimacyDrawing On Comprehensive Interviews With Young Men, Psychologists, Academics, And Experts In The Field, Boys Sex Dissects So Called Locker Room Talk How The Word Hilarious Robs Boys Of Empathy Pornography As The New Sex Education Boys Understanding Of Hookup Culture And Consent And Their Experience As Both Victims And Perpetrators Of Sexual Violence By Surfacing Young Men S Experience In All Its Complexity, Orenstein Is Able To Unravel The Hidden Truths, Hard Lessons, And Important Realities Of Young Male Sexuality In Today S World The Result Is A Provocative And Paradigm Shifting Work That Offers A Much Needed Vision Of How Boys Can Truly Move Forward As Better Men An absolutely urgent and necessary body of work from a true expert Orenstein conducts interviews with boys from various backgrounds, compiling case studies and statistics to show how boys are affected by toxic masculinity, porn, and a lack of discussion about sex in general In short, they are suffering The book includes difficult things to read, but Orenstein presents solutions or at least first steps that can help all kids boys, girls, and non gender conformists live healthier, happier, and authentic lives.